The experts said that more often than not, the infidelity is a “symptom” of a wider problem within the relationship
“Some of them are purely online or chat-based, but it still disturbs the marriage. Some were discovered at an early stage so they weren’t able to escalate to a stage where they meet up and go to the next level of their liaison,” he said.
While some people in fulfilling relationships arital sex “for fun” and thrill, Mr Lim from Reach Counselling Service said that there is another group whose marriage is already in trouble
“I believe that since the affairs are app-based, people become emotionally distant to the activity and may not see it as cheating… they have found ways to psychologically downplay what they are doing.”
“For example, changes in phone usage patterns. Suddenly, there is a password to the phone, or there is another phone – all of these are signs,” Mr Chua added.

Being on the phone during hours when they do not usually use their phones, such as waking up at 2am to text
Appearing secretive with their phone, such as taking it to the bathroom, keeping it under the pillow and being wary of people touching their phone
Smiling, giggling or laughing aloud when using the phone
Acting distant or spaced out with spouse or family
Changes in routines such as work hours and in dressing (for example, being more focused on grooming)

Ms Sophia Goh, principal counsellor and psychotherapist at Sofia Wellness Clinic, said that in general, anything that makes extramarital cheating more accessible will increase its frequency.
“And ever since women entered the workforce, and have higher status and monetary power, you see them having affairs as well,” Ms Goh added.
Online channels that make it sound like it is generally accepted to have extramarital affairs may also drive such behaviour.
“With dating apps and sites that market themselves as platforms that facilitate cheating, they normalise it as a lifestyle choice option,” Dr Lee said. […]